Reflection

I believe I have mentioned on this blog before that my husband and I are fostering two little girls.  We hope to be able to adopt them when the time comes and if it's God's will.  The oldest one, who is only 3, has a hard time just being herself.  She likes to copy everything that my son does(which he is older, so part of it is a younger sibling looking up to an older sibling), and when you ask her a question she gives you the answer that she thinks you would like to hear.  She does  not form her own opinions, rather just goes along with whatever opinion was put out there.  She is definitely a people pleaser!  One day I was talking to her about being her own person.  Granted, she is three, so my conversation was based on a 3 yr old level and hoping that she grasped some of what I was telling her.  I was trying to explain to her that she can have her own thoughts, likes and dislikes and that is Ok!  Also, that there is only ONE of her!  All of the sudden I got this feeling inside of me, like an "Ah Ha" moment.  I was talking to myself!!  I used to be her as a kid.  It was like looking in a mirror.  I am still very much a people pleaser in my adult life, but not like I was as a child.  I can remember as a child agreeing with certain things just to please others.  I now know that I can form and state my own opinions.  I have come along way, but it hasn't been easy.  I still find myself trying to please people, but I also can now stand up and give my own opinion without feeling guilty or worrying about what others will think.  I know that God has placed these 2 precious girls in our home for a reason.  I also know that it is important that I try and teach them both to be their own person.  I have made this one of my missions!

God made all of us in his image!  There is no one person alike!  Even our fingerprints are different! So, if we conform to others opinions and thoughts and actions, then we are masking our true individuality that God created!  I am still learning this.  I hope that if you struggle with being a "people pleaser", then you pray for God to help you unveil the true YOU!

Genesis 1:27New International Version (NIV)

²⁷ So God created mankind in his own image,
in the image of God he created them;
male and female he created them.

 

Genesis 2:5-7 The Message(MSG)

 

^5-7 At the time God made Earth and Heaven, before any grasses or shrubs had sprouted from the ground—God hadn’t yet sent rain on Earth, nor was there anyone around to work the ground (the whole Earth was watered by underground springs)—God formed Man out of dirt from the ground and blew into his nostrils the breath of life. The Man came alive—a living soul!